RECORD STORE TALES MkII: Getting More Tale
#429: “What kind of music do you like?”
Have you ever spent a little bit of time trying to get to know somebody new that you were interested in romantically? Probably, unless you have people throwing themselves at you like little girls at a Bieber concert. I’m sure most of us have made that small talk, when first making someone’s acquaintance. Nowadays it’s often done in email. Routine questions and the like.
You know the typical subjects, when you just meet somebody. Do you like pets? Do you like to travel? What’s your favourite food? (My answers always were: 1. Yes, 2. No, and 3. Anything that swims.)
The most difficult question of them all, the one that I could go on and on and on about was: “What kind of music do you like?”
What kind of music do I like?? How many hours do we have???
How do I answer that question? How do you answer that question?
It’s also a bit of a loaded question. I learned early in life that if I answered simply “Heavy Metal”, that was a dealbreaker with a lot of girls! I’m sure things are a lot different today. I remember my buddy Bob telling me, “This girl at work said she’d go out with me, if I didn’t listen to rock.”
I used to try and keep my answers short. When a person is just starting to get to know you, they don’t necessarily want an essay-form answer to a simple question. “What kind of music do you like?” I refused to answer “everything” because when most people say they like “all music”, 99% of the time, it’s not true. I’ve certainly dated people who claimed to like “all” music, but didn’t seem to enjoy anything I picked in the car….
Keeping things simple, I used to try to answer the music question in the following ways:
1. “Anything with guitars”.
I stopped using that one early because frankly it’s not true. Ben Folds Five didn’t use guitars. I have jazz and classical music without guitars. And there’s lots of music out there with guitars that just plain sucks!
2. “Anything that rocks”.
I thought, “Hey, that’s better than my other answer. Lots of music rocks. Even electronic music can rock.” But it doesn’t really answer the question, does it? It’s a subjective answer. It’s like answering, “Anything good.”
I had one really, really annoying customer at the Record Store one afternoon. She wanted some new music to listen to. It didn’t have to be “new” new, just new to her. When asked what kind of music she liked, she just answered, “Good music.”
She kept us running around for the next hour, trying to find CDs in the store that she would like. She would sit and try them on the listening station. She sampled the discs that we picked for her to try, and just answer, “I didn’t like these.” We asked again, is there anything specific you’re looking for? “I just like good music,” she answered, clearly as frustrated as we were.
My getting-to-know-you answer evolved into the following:
3. “I buy CDs from every section of the music store, but my favourites usually have loud guitars.”
Honest, true and short. And hopefully from that answer the young lady knew what she was getting into with me!
Did you used to get that question? How did you answer it? Leave a comment!
“Heavy metal, hard-core, punk, pop, or thrash.
You can call it anything it don’t matter to me.
Call it what you want.
It’s all music to me.”