GETTING MORE TALE #875: Love Will Find A Way
First breakups are so confusing. You’ve heard all the songs, seen all the movies. All that remained was to experience it yourself. Of course it’s nothing like a song! It can hurt though, lord don’t I know it?
I treated my first breakup like I was a DJ at an event. I planned songs. How did that work out? Terrible, but I did it.
When I got home and listened to some tunes, I put on “Love Song” by Tesla. I thought, “This will be the thing to listen to. That chorus will make me feel better.”
If only! “Love will find a way! Love is gonna find a way!” Encouraging, yes…but not what I needed to make myself feel better. Although I had not given up, I knew it was over. I knew that love wasn’t going to find a way. I had to think outside the box.
As it turns out, the ballads didn’t impact me as much as the heavy stuff. Angry stuff.
“Christian Woman” by Type O Negative. Metallica’s version of “Blitzkrieg”. Soundgarden’s “Jesus Christ Pose”. “Cyclops” by Bruce Dickinson. Queensryche’s “I Am I”. This was really hitting me! Some of the ballads did too, such as “Someone Else?” by Queensryche, or Bruce Dickinson’s “Change of Heart”. But those were not typical, traditional ballads like Tesla were putting out. Each was powerful in a unique way.
That’s it: power. I was looking for songs with power in them. Real power. The breakup had sucked dry all my energy, and I needed power. Those bands recharged me up like a battery. Thrashing around my bedroom, I worked out all that anger. I felt stronger after rocking out to a song like “I Am I”. And rock out I did, in my “air band” best! I gave myself a serious sweat when I rocked out to those songs.
Breakups might suck but they are a fertile ground for discovering (and rediscovering) music. What we were you listening to after your first breakup?
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I can’t remember mine, but probably a lot of the more depressing Porcupine Tree, Riverside and Rishloo songs based on the timing.
I do remember that I had been listening to Coheed and Cambria’s the afterman records a lot around the time of my most recent breakup, and there’s a line where the concept album character is lost in space and is never going to see his wife again, and says “goodbye forever” which to the music is very emotional, so I said it to my ex in the moment of being broken up with, thinking it was quite a good line, and they spat back at me “do you realise how childish you sound?”
Wish I was floating off into space forever lol
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Damn! Well I thought it was a good line. I’ll give you points for that one.
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I’ve never experienced a breakup before, but I had a lot of unrequited love interests. I listened to a lot of Taylor Swift, Ariana Grande, and a lot of poppy love songs and breakup songs. Yeah, that only made things worse! Boy times have changed, I still listen to Ariana once in a while, but now I can’t stand Taylor Swift haha!
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Awww poor Taylor! What about the DVD she did with Def Leppard?
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No I cringe every time I think about that now ha! What irritates me the most was that in the episode, she talked about how she saw Shania Twain (or something) and that’s when she realized country music was everything! Then five years later, she gave it up entirely!
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I am also glad to say that I’ve never had the dubious honour of a breakup.
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If it happens, you are at least prepared with a large collection of Metal.
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I’m not exactly “planning” to have one, but yes, should it happen, I am more than prepared.
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Hey, nobody plans it. Luckily I had a great metal collection ready when it happened.
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I don’t remember specific songs helping me after my first break-up, but they probably did. I’m glad you found a healthy outlet though!
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Music is one of the healthiest outlets, I believe!
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Sure is, and it’s the universal language, so wherever you go, there it is (in some form or other).
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Ballads suck for breakups because they are too sweet and sappy. Aggression is so much better. Turning it up loud to make the walls shake that is what helped. It didn’t matter the band, just as long as it was loud and angry.
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Primal Scream by Motley is a good one.
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Yes, that is a good one!
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Great writing again.
And song i listened to was “She Goes Down” by Motley Crue.
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Bwahahaha! Brilliant!
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try Quireboys I don’t love you anymore. Listening to their live cd I got a while back and am just now listening for the first time. Sometimes bawling your eyes out helps to drain a bit of that hurt away.
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Great tune. Got it on a single somewhere but I need the album.
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highly recommend a bit of what you fancy. Have that. Was listening to Live (Recorded Around The World). It’s really good, highly recommend this one too.
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It’s sinister, a bit childish, and fun to get pissed about, but not act upon. Several woman-centric A.C. songs too profane to list here do the trick as well.
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Although the Picnic of Love album by them isn’t profane. I’ve never used it as break up consolation, but maybe I should since it’s hilarious and mocks the very concept of love.
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I remember listening to Van Halen II after my first break up. However, the music wasn’t the focus, it merely provided background while I was talking things over with Reverend Daniels: First name Jack. He made me see the light.
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It’s all good until Reverend Daniels helps you too quickly and then you vomit all over yourself in the shower and black out until the water gets so cold it wakes you up with the biggest headache and it feels like your insides are going to implode.
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That was exactly what happened to me that night.
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It happened to me once too. But it was half a bottle of Skrewball Peanut Whiskey, a glass of white wine, and a shot of bourbon.
I didn’t fall asleep until I had already turned the water off though. And I felt pretty good the next morning. All things considered.
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Talk about mixing your drinks, respect.
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Ha. Thanks! Wasn’t too noble though. Basically I finished the bottle of whiskey and was blitzed out of mind to the point of just wanting more without thinking of the consequences, then went for whatever else I could find around the house.
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A good question – fortunately, most of my favourite music falls under the ‘sad bastard music’ genre, so I had plenty of miserable options at my disposal!
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Nice High Fidelity reference!
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So many great lines from that film!
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I heard someone once say that it was Gen X’s Annie Hall. Couldn’t think of a more apt comparison.
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